Dating - It's like trying on a pair of jeans!!!

Have you ever felt crazy because you weren’t in a relationship?

Has anyone ever made you feel bad about yourself because you weren’t ready to be married?

I ask you these questions because one of the youngest Slassy Ladies is currently dealing with these things. Baby Slassy is only 23 years old; however her best friend is currently engaged and will soon be married. You may remember when the first of your girl friends took the plunge and got hitched.  Everyone seems to get wedding fever and if you don’t you feel weird, left out, and sometimes lonely. But should you?

Baby Slassy was once in a wonderful relationship with a great guy, however there seemed to be something missing. Baby Slassy wanted more than her boyfriend could give her so they parted ways and she continued to date other guys. In the meantime her best friend was in a serious relationship with the same young man who she had been dating since she was 16 years old. Now he was quite a bit older, 21, and a bit mature considering he is the military. Baby Slassy’s best friend is now engaged to this man, however she has sacrificed a lot of things to be with him – she missed her senior prom and almost skipped her high school graduation, and has never kissed another man. Now Baby Slassy’s best friend is 22 and will soon be married. She’s happy and ready for marriage however she believes that Baby Slassy should be focused on marriage as well, but she isn’t. Instead she is out there living life with the belief that everything happens for a reason. Baby Slassy is trying to figure out what type of a man she wants to be with. “It’s just like a pair of jeans. Some fit better than others and some may look right on you but not on others.”

We tell people to be independent, however many people believe that you can’t live a fulfilled and happy life, unless you get married. Baby Slassy is a college graduate, fully employed, living debt free and single – isn’t that something to proud of and excited about?  Why does society push people to get married when they aren’t ready? Why do friends feel as though they have to do everything together and at the same time?

There are no two people just alike. We all have to live our own lives, making our own decisions and mistakes. Sometimes those things may happen at the same time as others around us, but often they will happen at very different moments and that’s ok.

You may have found your perfect pair of jeans or maybe your still looking. But remember, just because they are perfect for you, doesn’t mean that they will be right for you friends!!!